WORKSTATION DAIRY SERIES - An Introvert Lifestyle Reflection
By: Ulysses C. Ybiernas | August 16, 2016
I Rather Have Few Friends
But Genuine Ones
More often than not, a gregarious person has a distinct advantage when it comes to human connectivity, which can be particularly beneficial in networking, building relationships, and even in the business world. Being outgoing often translates to an ability to cultivate broad networks of acquaintances or friends, a trait that can open doors and provide support in various endeavors. However, not everyone is wired this way, and I am one of those individuals.
While extroverted traits are often admired or even envied, I am contented in just staying in the shadows, away from the glare of the social spotlight. For me, simplicity is key, and limiting my connectivity helps me achieve a lifestyle aligned with my personal values. The fewer entanglements I have, the more I can focus on the things that truly matter to me, like my family and personal peace.
I know someone who thrives on connections, frequently bragging about the influential people they know and proudly recounting their achievements. They seem to derive a sense of self-worth from being associated with such individuals. But I’ve often asked myself: does knowing someone successful or popular make you a better person? Does it add intrinsic value to your character? For me, the answer is clear: no. Being proud of others is one thing, but parading their achievements as if they were your own strikes me as unnecessary and even superficial.
I have no interest in exposing the achievements of people, even those I know, nor do I feel the need to surround myself with such crowd. To me, a simpler life, one with fewer social obligations and less noise, is a life well-lived. When your circle is too wide, you’re inevitably pulled into numerous invitations and events, often feeling compelled to participate even when you’d rather decline. Saying "no" becomes harder, and you end up stretching yourself too thin.
That’s precisely why I’ve chosen to keep my social circle small. I focus on meaningful, authentic connections rather than chasing quantity. In my life, my family takes priority, especially since I’m solely responsible for raising my children. My limited social network allows me to give them the attention and care they deserve without unnecessary distractions.
In the end, I’ve realized that the number of friends you have doesn’t define your worth. What truly matters is the depth of those connections and the peace they bring to your life. For me, having a few genuine friends, those I can trust and rely on is far more valuable than being surrounded by a multitude of acquaintances. Simplicity and authenticity can thump out any form of superficiality every time.
I used to hate myself for being introverted because I really like to be always alone. But it turns out I just like peace because I am much extroverted around people who bring me peace."
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